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Is it one of the ultimate gay dreams becoming true or is it just all part of conforming to the society's mould of a perfect couple?

And where to go from there? What to do once all is done up? Move closer to the City? Get some doggies and a white picket fence?

Let me know what you think on this "settling" theme :D]]>
Is it one of the ultimate gay dreams becoming true or is it just all part of conforming to the society's mould of a perfect couple?

And where to go from there? What to do once all is done up? Move closer to the City? Get some doggies and a white picket fence?

Let me know what you think on this "settling" theme :D]]> http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=32 Mon, 04 Aug 2008 02:07:03 -0600 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=32
Oh well - so whats happening with Express?]]>
Oh well - so whats happening with Express?]]> http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=31 Mon, 28 Jul 2008 16:47:48 -0600 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=31
His killers received life imprisonment with a non-parole period of 15 years. This means they can apply for parole after only 15 years, and, if good while in jail, possibly be released on certain conditions.

Is 15 years enough punishment for such a vicious crime?]]>
His killers received life imprisonment with a non-parole period of 15 years. This means they can apply for parole after only 15 years, and, if good while in jail, possibly be released on certain conditions.

Is 15 years enough punishment for such a vicious crime?]]> http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=30 Thu, 24 Jul 2008 16:35:23 -0600 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=30
Do you agree? Discuss.

I’m a post op MTF and this sensationalism disgusts me .
It makes post op out to be some sort of a freak and shows the total lack of understanding of true Trans. Transgender or transsexuals or whatever you may wish to call us. I’m a female TG.

Over the last couple of years, Oprah has done a great deal to highlight Tran’s issues and help understanding but this has undone a great deal. This person was still a female, even if she was allowed to legally change her gender. I’m not exactly sure what GRS she has actually undergone but clearly she still had ovaries and a womb at the minimum.

On top of that I would suggest it highly unlikely she was on any female hormone blockers or taking testosterone during the pregnancy. She still had a motherly instinct to foster a child. She is a female masquerading as a man. At best a cross dresser/transvestite but not a true Transgender FTM.

For sure I can’t talk as an FTM but I can talk from experience as a postop MTF. That’s more understanding or experience than any straight genetic person has and therefore gives me more right to comment on and judge. Having talked and discussed with many MTF, true Trans reach a point where we hate our genitals being recognised, they don’t function due to the levels of hormones we take, we don’t want them touched, are embarrassed if they function uncontrollably. We don’t enjoy having sexual intercourse as a male. We hate our male genitals and don’t want them. We want to be the females we are and not hold on to certain parts but enjoy the other parts.Having two bites of the cake.

Alas, in NZ, no one really knows how many true FTM or MTF transgender there actually are and the same would be in most countries. Here in NZ, several of us have taken a stab at it and recon its likely there are no more than about 200. We are the minority within the minority. But we have gone further, experienced more and alas in many ways need more. I believe we understand ourselves better than most. However we are in danger of being overrun by numbers. Where FTM and MTF were once regarded solely as ‘transgender’ we have now CD, drag queens, intersex and more covered by this term. Endorsed by common usage, a lack of knowledge and the Human Rights Commission promoting it in its report into discrimination in the transgender community.

It’s a long standing argument and one I’m not about to change I know and so I largely accept it. However it does mean I will not be referred to as a ‘transgender’. I’m a female or female TG. A member of the transgender community - yes. We are not elitists or any more special than anyone else but we do have a right to be treated as who we are and not just dumped in a barrel with everyone else because we are a minority.

What understanding do they {the media} really have? The same with the makers of the Oprah programme. To me this ‘man having a baby’ was no more than a money making scam by a genetic female and has been totally denigrating to true FTM and MTF.

Had this person been a true FTM and fathered the child or a true MTF and given birth naturally, then this story would have been fantastic but alas it is a farce. I will expect a lot to disagree with me but I ask all to consider, if you are not true FTM or MTF then you have no real actual understanding and can’t comment. I’m full on open and honest about who and what I am and hide from no one so hence my name is at the bottom. I will always be a genetic male alas but I am legally and fully a female. I am who I am.

Racheal McGonigal
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Do you agree? Discuss.

I’m a post op MTF and this sensationalism disgusts me .
It makes post op out to be some sort of a freak and shows the total lack of understanding of true Trans. Transgender or transsexuals or whatever you may wish to call us. I’m a female TG.

Over the last couple of years, Oprah has done a great deal to highlight Tran’s issues and help understanding but this has undone a great deal. This person was still a female, even if she was allowed to legally change her gender. I’m not exactly sure what GRS she has actually undergone but clearly she still had ovaries and a womb at the minimum.

On top of that I would suggest it highly unlikely she was on any female hormone blockers or taking testosterone during the pregnancy. She still had a motherly instinct to foster a child. She is a female masquerading as a man. At best a cross dresser/transvestite but not a true Transgender FTM.

For sure I can’t talk as an FTM but I can talk from experience as a postop MTF. That’s more understanding or experience than any straight genetic person has and therefore gives me more right to comment on and judge. Having talked and discussed with many MTF, true Trans reach a point where we hate our genitals being recognised, they don’t function due to the levels of hormones we take, we don’t want them touched, are embarrassed if they function uncontrollably. We don’t enjoy having sexual intercourse as a male. We hate our male genitals and don’t want them. We want to be the females we are and not hold on to certain parts but enjoy the other parts.Having two bites of the cake.

Alas, in NZ, no one really knows how many true FTM or MTF transgender there actually are and the same would be in most countries. Here in NZ, several of us have taken a stab at it and recon its likely there are no more than about 200. We are the minority within the minority. But we have gone further, experienced more and alas in many ways need more. I believe we understand ourselves better than most. However we are in danger of being overrun by numbers. Where FTM and MTF were once regarded solely as ‘transgender’ we have now CD, drag queens, intersex and more covered by this term. Endorsed by common usage, a lack of knowledge and the Human Rights Commission promoting it in its report into discrimination in the transgender community.

It’s a long standing argument and one I’m not about to change I know and so I largely accept it. However it does mean I will not be referred to as a ‘transgender’. I’m a female or female TG. A member of the transgender community - yes. We are not elitists or any more special than anyone else but we do have a right to be treated as who we are and not just dumped in a barrel with everyone else because we are a minority.

What understanding do they {the media} really have? The same with the makers of the Oprah programme. To me this ‘man having a baby’ was no more than a money making scam by a genetic female and has been totally denigrating to true FTM and MTF.

Had this person been a true FTM and fathered the child or a true MTF and given birth naturally, then this story would have been fantastic but alas it is a farce. I will expect a lot to disagree with me but I ask all to consider, if you are not true FTM or MTF then you have no real actual understanding and can’t comment. I’m full on open and honest about who and what I am and hide from no one so hence my name is at the bottom. I will always be a genetic male alas but I am legally and fully a female. I am who I am.

Racheal McGonigal
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What do you think?]]>
What do you think?]]> http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=25 Mon, 07 Jul 2008 16:24:57 -0600 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=25 Looks like Helens not doing as well as she would hope, i've even heard that Labour have been thinking about a change in leadership.

I was just thinking, we've had Labour for a while now, and they have been very good to the gay community, especially when you compaire us to other countries like Oz or the States.

Where they both have right-wing governments.

Whats going to happen to us if John finally manages to lead National to victory?
will our community go to hell in a handbasket? or is NZ so far along that we dont need to worry, and all we need to think about is the possibility of tax cuts?
so, any thoughts?]]> Looks like Helens not doing as well as she would hope, i've even heard that Labour have been thinking about a change in leadership.

I was just thinking, we've had Labour for a while now, and they have been very good to the gay community, especially when you compaire us to other countries like Oz or the States.

Where they both have right-wing governments.

Whats going to happen to us if John finally manages to lead National to victory?
will our community go to hell in a handbasket? or is NZ so far along that we dont need to worry, and all we need to think about is the possibility of tax cuts?
so, any thoughts?]]> http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=24 Mon, 07 Jul 2008 02:19:23 -0600 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=24
Mixed Up is the new club night brought to you by the lads who ran the Saturday "Got The Beats" nights at The Supermarket for over 2 years. This Saturday (8th November '08) it returns to the space where it all began, albeit with new funishings and name above the door - NV.
Residents Luke James and Superclarkee will be mixing up a blend funky, chunky, deep 'n' dirty, tech, indie, electro, house and breaks goodness for your dancing and aural pleasure.]]>
Mixed Up is the new club night brought to you by the lads who ran the Saturday "Got The Beats" nights at The Supermarket for over 2 years. This Saturday (8th November '08) it returns to the space where it all began, albeit with new funishings and name above the door - NV.
Residents Luke James and Superclarkee will be mixing up a blend funky, chunky, deep 'n' dirty, tech, indie, electro, house and breaks goodness for your dancing and aural pleasure.]]> http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=23 Sun, 06 Jul 2008 20:14:11 -0600 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=23
What do you think?]]>
What do you think?]]> http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=22 Sat, 05 Jul 2008 17:06:58 -0600 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=22
1. The Rainbow Youth Website Review Survey was launched last night.
We're currently reviewing our rather dated website and need your input on what you like and don't like about websites.
If you're on any of our email lists you'll be receiving an email notice over the next few days.
http://survey.rainbowyouth.org.nz

2. The 2008 AGM has come around again, Saturday 19th July and we'd like all our members, old and new, and prospective members/supporters to come along and meet the board and other members. As well as join us in celebrating some amazing members and nominate/vote on the new board to grow and strengthen us through the next twelve month period.
http://www.rainbowyouth.org.nz/agm2008/

See the web links for more details.]]>
1. The Rainbow Youth Website Review Survey was launched last night.
We're currently reviewing our rather dated website and need your input on what you like and don't like about websites.
If you're on any of our email lists you'll be receiving an email notice over the next few days.
http://survey.rainbowyouth.org.nz

2. The 2008 AGM has come around again, Saturday 19th July and we'd like all our members, old and new, and prospective members/supporters to come along and meet the board and other members. As well as join us in celebrating some amazing members and nominate/vote on the new board to grow and strengthen us through the next twelve month period.
http://www.rainbowyouth.org.nz/agm2008/

See the web links for more details.]]> http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=21 Sat, 05 Jul 2008 17:06:09 -0600 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=21
1. The Rainbow Youth Website Review Survey was launched last night.
We're currently reviewing our rather dated website and need your input on what you like and don't like about websites.
If you're on any of our email lists you'll be receiving an email notice over the next few days.
http://survey.rainbowyouth.org.nz

2. The 2008 AGM has come around again, Saturday 19th July and we'd like all our members, old and new, and prospective members/supporters to come along and meet the board and other members. As well as join us in celebrating some amazing members and nominate/vote on the new board to grow and strengthen us through the next twelve month period.
http://www.rainbowyouth.org.nz/agm2008/

See the web links for more details.]]>
1. The Rainbow Youth Website Review Survey was launched last night.
We're currently reviewing our rather dated website and need your input on what you like and don't like about websites.
If you're on any of our email lists you'll be receiving an email notice over the next few days.
http://survey.rainbowyouth.org.nz

2. The 2008 AGM has come around again, Saturday 19th July and we'd like all our members, old and new, and prospective members/supporters to come along and meet the board and other members. As well as join us in celebrating some amazing members and nominate/vote on the new board to grow and strengthen us through the next twelve month period.
http://www.rainbowyouth.org.nz/agm2008/

See the web links for more details.]]> http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=20 Mon, 30 Jun 2008 18:06:55 -0600 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=20 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=19 Tue, 10 Jun 2008 17:15:16 -0600 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=19 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=18 Mon, 02 Jun 2008 13:33:35 -0600 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=18 Not that it was stolen or anything, it's just I seem to keep spending!

And what it seems i spend most on.... is my Petrol, and Car Parking.
It's terrible!!!

So today... for $1.60 i'm taking the Link to work, and walking to the bus stop with my boyfriend.
instead of paying $7.50 for the early bird special, and then filling up with $20 gas (which doesn't even give me 10 litres of petrol anymore!!)

I think, what took me so long to stop using the car to work, was that it was cold!!! and i'm a wuss! haha!!
so today, got my thermals on!! 2 pairs of socks. scarf and sweatshirt.
And i'm off!!!]]> Not that it was stolen or anything, it's just I seem to keep spending!

And what it seems i spend most on.... is my Petrol, and Car Parking.
It's terrible!!!

So today... for $1.60 i'm taking the Link to work, and walking to the bus stop with my boyfriend.
instead of paying $7.50 for the early bird special, and then filling up with $20 gas (which doesn't even give me 10 litres of petrol anymore!!)

I think, what took me so long to stop using the car to work, was that it was cold!!! and i'm a wuss! haha!!
so today, got my thermals on!! 2 pairs of socks. scarf and sweatshirt.
And i'm off!!!]]> http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=16 Sat, 24 May 2008 20:49:03 -0600 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=16 So it was my Bday this week... Another year to separate me from my teens!
I don't know if it's just me, but every now and then, when I go out and see all those young new faces around, it make me a bit "age conscious"!!!
Is it part of the Gay way of life to try looking young forever? Are we obliged by some moral code to keep on going to the gym and look perfect at all costs? Do we really have to keep up with the fashion?
Or is there room in this world for those who just want to age gracefully without caring too much of those "expression lines" and grey hair appearing along the way?

Tell me what you think :P]]> So it was my Bday this week... Another year to separate me from my teens!
I don't know if it's just me, but every now and then, when I go out and see all those young new faces around, it make me a bit "age conscious"!!!
Is it part of the Gay way of life to try looking young forever? Are we obliged by some moral code to keep on going to the gym and look perfect at all costs? Do we really have to keep up with the fashion?
Or is there room in this world for those who just want to age gracefully without caring too much of those "expression lines" and grey hair appearing along the way?

Tell me what you think :P]]> http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=14 Sun, 11 May 2008 03:51:01 -0600 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=14
Just would like to say I'm happy Express finally started a forum.
I'm looking for great discussions and scene informations here.

Cheers,

Bobby]]>
Just would like to say I'm happy Express finally started a forum.
I'm looking for great discussions and scene informations here.

Cheers,

Bobby]]> http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=13 Sat, 10 May 2008 17:15:07 -0600 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=13 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=12 Wed, 07 May 2008 21:07:00 -0600 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=12
I know you're like "a miss contest whath aF#$%!"... Well the miss Tonga New Zealand first heat is on this weekend, and one of the sections is dedicated to Drag Queen, last year Chichi won and flew to Tonga to represent NZ :D

Ofa Atu, Pierre.]]>
I know you're like "a miss contest whath aF#$%!"... Well the miss Tonga New Zealand first heat is on this weekend, and one of the sections is dedicated to Drag Queen, last year Chichi won and flew to Tonga to represent NZ :D

Ofa Atu, Pierre.]]> http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=10 Wed, 07 May 2008 18:07:54 -0600 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=10
I've just moved places and thought it would go all smoothly. The reality was completely chaotic!
My broadband connection was down for 4 whole days!!! How can you live without checking your emails / your bank accounts... It made me realize how dependent I am from all those technological traps that surround me. Brought me back to the feeling of when my IPhone didn't synchronize properly with my computer: the end of the world of course!

So here I am, completely hooked to the Internet... Who would have thought this, 20 years ago, as I was growing up in the countryside of Normandy, France? I have to say, it was a real awakening to me that times have definitely changed!

Let me know what you think of that, Pierre.]]>
I've just moved places and thought it would go all smoothly. The reality was completely chaotic!
My broadband connection was down for 4 whole days!!! How can you live without checking your emails / your bank accounts... It made me realize how dependent I am from all those technological traps that surround me. Brought me back to the feeling of when my IPhone didn't synchronize properly with my computer: the end of the world of course!

So here I am, completely hooked to the Internet... Who would have thought this, 20 years ago, as I was growing up in the countryside of Normandy, France? I have to say, it was a real awakening to me that times have definitely changed!

Let me know what you think of that, Pierre.]]> http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=9 Wed, 30 Apr 2008 20:19:15 -0600 http://expresstoday.co.nz/forum/showthread.php?tid=9
Looking forward to losing my e-virginity to you eager forum lovers!

Jake xoxo]]>
Looking forward to losing my e-virginity to you eager forum lovers!

Jake xoxo]]>